“The best predictor for future behavior is past behavior.”
Have you read and heard that statement as often as I have?
More importantly however, is, do you recognize and believe it?
Has your past behavior resounded through time to continuously affect the way you respond to life, right here and right now?
Mine certainly has.
I’ve headed this post “Look Back in ANGER … Move Forward with Dread.”
Therein lay my challenge to myself.
Make no mistake, I have held onto the fierce anger I learned to feel before I was taught to write my own name.
It has raged inside me forever, or so it seems.
It is relentless, soul consuming and unapologetic in its efforts to deny me peace of mind.
I have loathed it … and I have nurtured it.
For it has become comfortingly familiar to me, much like an old friend that I recognize, and in that recognition I’ve invited it to re-visit me over-and-over, and over again.
I seek answers within the rage, knowing in advance, that there are none to find. For I know from whence that rage stems.
I rail against it, I abhor it … I recognize the damage that it offers my future self, and in an instant I deny that recognition.
For I have sought comfort in the unrelenting familiarity I find within these boundaries I have set myself.
The anger, helplessness and utter frustration that I’ve recognized and clung to, have not enriched my existence.
Nor have those raging reactions and emotions enriched the existence of those that have loved me in spite of it.
It is not only for myself, but, for them, that this morass of soul devouring rage has to change.
I can NOT go backward in time and alter the situations that crafted my rage.
I can NOT undo the damage that life’s fickle hand has dealt me.
I can NOT forget or forgive those that perpetrated their evil betrayal on an unsuspecting child.
But … I CAN learn to reshape that rage into a renewed sense of purpose.
I CAN learn to channel that sense of purpose into a passion that spurs me on to do better.
I CAN permit myself to love those that love me … and do so unconditionally.
I CAN allow myself to again trust in my own judgment.
Until, ultimately, I CAN move forward into a future unclouded by dread.
Yes, it will be difficult, and, Yes, it will present me with challenges.
But the rewards of attaining this freedom from rage will enable me to pursue personal goals I’ve long wanted to acheive.
It will grant me the permission to feel pleasure in its final accomplishment.
Now THAT is the future I want. THAT is the future I’ll aim for.
That gives me reason to smile.